Imagine a lifeboat adrift at
sea. In the lifeboat are a male
lawyer, a female doctor, a crippled child, a stay-at-home mom, and a garbage
man. The storm is raging, waves are
working to destroy this lifeboat, and panic has set within the hearts of the
individuals on board. They
realize, that in order for all the others to be saved, one person must be
thrown over board. Which one will
they choose?*
Now, imagine that I divided all the
readers of this article up into groups, had you spread out in a room and debate
this question, the question of which one you would choose. Can you imagine the discussions that
would take place?
Who would you choose? And how
would you choose? What criteria
would determine your decision? Is
one of these individuals more valuable than another? Does one have more to contribute to the world?
When presented with this scenario
for the first time years ago, I don’t remember who I threw out of the boat, but
what I do remember is that I did not think twice about making a decision about
who had value and who didn’t. I
decided who would be thrown out of the boat and determined this based on my
opinion of how valuable each individual was to the group. I looked at their profession, their
gender, their education, their ability or inability to perform to the level
that I thought a person in the lifeboat should be able to perform. In short, I decided all kinds of
reasons that people should or shouldn’t be thrown out of the boat.
Isn’t it likely that when I rattled
off the individuals present in the scenario you were already deciding about who
you might choose to throw overboard?
Maybe in your mind, you were thinking about which one of these
individuals makes the most money, has the greatest disability, and who would
help or hurt this situation the most?
But doesn’t the crippled child have just as much value as the female
doctor and the garbage man? Doesn’t
the stay at home mom have just as much talent as the male lawyer?
Donald Miller says it this way,
“The thing is, if people are in a lifeboat, the reason they feel passionately
about being a good person is because if they aren’t, they are going to be
thrown overboard. Miller suggests
that the reason there is a lifeboat scenario at play in our world at all
anyway, is because so many of us have forgotten who and where we are to
actually receive our value and worth from. What if, in the same way the sun feeds plants, God’s glory
gives his children life? What if
our value exists because God take pleasure in us?
Someone once wrote, “If the gospel is good news (and it is)
then let it be continually announced the hostage ordeal is over. Ordeal? What
ordeal? Did we miss something?
Men and women of all brands are held hostage in trying to be what others want them to be. We are shackled by expectations placed upon us by many who feel they know best. Many struggle to be the most and best they can be because both restrictions and demands have been handed over. The result is grown people in thirty, fifty and eighty year old bodies who are stifled by someone's estimation of how they should act, where they should live, and what they should do.
Men and women of all brands are held hostage in trying to be what others want them to be. We are shackled by expectations placed upon us by many who feel they know best. Many struggle to be the most and best they can be because both restrictions and demands have been handed over. The result is grown people in thirty, fifty and eighty year old bodies who are stifled by someone's estimation of how they should act, where they should live, and what they should do.
The thread, which fatigues every human heart, is the
pressure of trying to be what others expect. Jesus offers great news that each can become what God can
imagine. And God’s dream is bigger
than a lifeboat and announces that through the blood of Jesus, “the hostage
ordeal is over.”
*This
“theory” was originally presented in Donald Miller’s book, Searching For God Know What.